Toby Messer

Holistic Jungian therapist specializing in trauma and relationships

About

My name is Toby, and I am a solution-focused and analytical psychotherapist. I centre my work on understanding the root of our behaviour and emotions while striving to facilitate active and meaningful change in the present. By integrating behavioural approaches such as CBT, REBT, DBT, and others with the depth of more analytical approaches like psychodynamic and analytical methods, I can work in a more effective and long-lasting way.

Years Experience: 11

Location: United Kingdom, United Kingdom

Accepting New Clients: No

Gender: Male

Accepting international clients: Yes

NPI Number:

Credentials:

Languages Spoken: English

Licenses: NCPS #NCS15-01812 exp 2026-08-25

List of Specialties: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Grief, Self esteem, Depression, Addictions, LGBT, Family, Trauma and abuse, Intimacy-related issues, Eating, Sleeping, Parenting, Anger, Career, Bipolar, Coping with life changes, Coaching, Compassion fatigue, ADHD, Male therapist, Gay, Non-religious

Where Can You Work With This Therapist: BetterHelp

Therapist of color: No

Communication options: Phone • Video • Live Chat • Messaging

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Toby Messer

Solution-focused psychotherapy for meaningful change

Solution-focused and analytical
Behavioural and analytic methods
11 years’ experience

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About

Toby Messer is a solution-focused, analytical psychotherapist who concentrates on identifying the roots of behaviour and emotion while helping clients make practical, meaningful changes in the present.

He combines behavioural methods such as CBT, REBT and DBT with the deeper work of psychodynamic and analytical approaches to provide therapy that aims to be both effective now and sustainable over time.

Based in the United Kingdom, Toby brings 11 years of clinical experience to his practice and works with clients to address patterns, develop insight and implement strategies that support lasting progress.

Location: United Kingdom, United Kingdom

Years Experience: 11

Gender: Male

Languages Spoken: English

Therapist of Color: No

Communication Options: Phone • Video • Live Chat • Messaging

Specialties

Primary area of focus: Depression, Grief, Relationship, Relationship, Self esteem, Stress, Anxiety

Other areas of experience: Abandonment, Addictions, ADHD, Aging and geriatric issues, Anger, Antisocial personality, Attachment issues, BDSM, Bipolar, Blended family issues, Body image, Cancer, Career, Caregiver issues and stress, Chronic illness, Chronic pain, Coaching, Codependency, Commitment issues, Communication problems, Compassion fatigue, Compulsion, Control issues, Coping with life changes, Dependent personality, Disability, Disaster relief therapy, Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD), Dissociation, Divorce, Domestic violence, Eating, Family, Family of origin issues, Fatherhood issues, Fertility issues, First responder issues, Forgiveness, Gambling, Gender dysphoria, Guilt and shame, Hoarding, Hospice and end-of-life counseling, Impulsivity, Infidelity, Intimacy-related issues, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Kink, LGBT, Life purpose, Men’s issues, Midlife crisis, Money and financial issues, Mood disorders, Multicultural concerns, Narcissism, Non-monogamous relationships, Obsession, OCD, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Paranoia, Parenting, Personality disorders, Phobias, Polyamory, Porn, Post-traumatic stress, Postpartum depression, Pregnancy, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-harm, Self-love, Separation, Sex addiction, Sexual dysfunction, Sexual trauma, Sexuality, Sleeping, Social anxiety and phobia, Trauma and abuse, Trichotillomania, Veterans, Workplace issues, Young adult issues

Therapeutic approach: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Systemic Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy

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Therapist Available Through: BetterHelp

Currently Accepting New Clients: No

Accepting International Clients: Yes

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Credentials & Verification

Credentials:
NPI Number:
License: NCPS #NCS15-01812 exp 2026-08-25

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How much experience does Toby Messer have?

Toby Messer has 11 years’ experience providing therapy services.

In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?

Toby Messer provides therapy in English.

Where is Toby Messer located?

Toby Messer is located in the United Kingdom.

How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?

You can work with Toby Messer through Phone • Video • Live Chat • Messaging.

Does Toby Messer work with international clients?

Toby Messer does work with international clients.

How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?

The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as the client’s location and the therapist’s availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the ‘Start Therapy’ button on this page.

How can I get started with therapy?

To begin working with Toby Messer, click the ‘Start Therapy’ button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.

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