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Nicole Thomte

Holistic Jungian therapist specializing in trauma and relationships

About

Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #3853 in Minnesota. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society’s expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I know that these populations are underserved in current society, and my goal is for you to have the inclusive support you deserve to improve your life the way you want. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.

My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You’re the expert in your life, and I’m here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses.

Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered.

I worked at a behavioral health agency once I was approved for my state intern license in 2013. The population we served were most often persons who have the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the interminable waiting period after having applied, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources.

Since before even starting my work as a state intern, I had begun attending supervision groups and co-facilitating survivor groups under the auspices of Gender Justice Nevada in November, 2012. Over the nearly six years until my hiatus in July, 2018, I learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation in addition to individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities.

I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.

Years Experience: 13
Location: Minnesota, United States
Accepting New Clients: No
Gender: Female
Accepting international clients: No
NPI Number: 1871834630
Credentials: MN LMFT 3853
Languages Spoken: English
Licenses: LMFT (Minnesota) #3853 exp 2025-12-31
List of Specialties: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship, Intimacy-related issues, Self esteem, Family, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Anger, Career, Bipolar, Depression, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, ADHD, Female therapist, Gay, Older, Non-religious, Liberal therapist
Where Can You Work With This Therapist: BetterHelp
Therapist of color: No
Communication options: Phone • Video • Live Chat • Messaging

Nicole Thomte

Affirming therapy for diverse lives
  • Minnesota-based therapist
  • Sex-positive and affirming
  • 13 years experience

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About

Nicole Thomte (she/her or they/them) is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Minnesota, with thirteen years of clinical experience. Nicole centers a practice that intentionally serves people, couples, and families who live outside dominant societal expectations and who are often underserved by mainstream mental health care.

Nicole offers affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+ people as well as those involved in kink, consensual nonmonogamy, polyamory, and related relationship structures, using a largely solution-focused approach informed by an intersectional feminist perspective. She is also interested in sex-positive work and sex therapy while affirming the legitimacy of asexuality within its own spectrum.

Her therapeutic manner is exploratory and accepting rather than prescriptive, with attention to humor as a way to ease the strain of difficult situations. Nicole approaches clients as the experts in their own lives, providing supportive reflection and an outside viewpoint to help illuminate patterns and connections that might be hard to see amid current struggles. She prefers to prioritize what each person brings to sessions over reliance on diagnostic labels.

Choosing to work in therapy was Nicole’s third career path, a decision she describes as complex, lengthy, and profoundly rewarding. After receiving approval for a state intern license in 2013, she worked at a behavioral health agency serving people with significant challenges, including many navigating disability, multiple health concerns, and limited access to resources.

Beginning in November 2012, Nicole participated in supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups with Gender Justice Nevada, a commitment that continued until a hiatus in July 2018. Over those nearly six years she learned from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence and discrimination, sex- and gender-diverse young people, families and loved ones of gender-diverse people, and sex workers, providing group facilitation as well as individual, couple, and family therapy.

Nicole describes herself as a compassionate, driven advocate for those pushed to the margins, and she welcomes the opportunity to hear what clients bring to the therapeutic relationship.

Location: Minnesota, United States
Years Experience: 13
Gender: Female
Languages Spoken: English
Therapist of Color: No
Communication Options: Phone • Video • Live Chat • Messaging

Specialties

List of Specialties: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship, Intimacy-related issues, Self esteem, Family, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Anger, Career, Bipolar, Depression, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, ADHD, Female therapist, Gay, Older, Non-religious, Liberal therapist
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Therapist Available Through: BetterHelp
Currently Accepting New Clients: No
Accepting International Clients: No

Credentials & Verification

  • Credentials: MN LMFT 3853
  • NPI Number: 1871834630
  • License: LMFT (Minnesota) #3853 exp 2025-12-31

Is Online Therapy the Right Choice for Your Mental Health Journey?

Many people wonder whether online therapy can make a meaningful difference. For common concerns such as stress, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, or navigating life transitions, research has found that remote therapy is comparably effective to traditional in-person sessions for most individuals.

One major benefit is flexibility – clients can connect in the format that best fits their needs, whether by video call, phone session, live chat, or in-app messaging. This range of options makes it easier to schedule and sustain regular treatment alongside work, family, and other commitments.

Sessions are provided by licensed professionals, and if someone feels a different fit would be better, it is possible to change therapists. For many people, the combination of proven effectiveness and practical convenience makes online therapy a viable way to address everyday mental health and relationship concerns.

How much experience does Nicole Thomte have?

Nicole Thomte has thirteen years of clinical experience providing therapy services.

Is Nicole Thomte a licensed therapist?

Yes. Nicole Thomte is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Minnesota.

In which languages does Nicole Thomte provide therapy?

Nicole Thomte provides therapy in English.

Where is Nicole Thomte located?

Nicole Thomte is located in Minnesota.

How can I work with Nicole Thomte as my therapist?

Clients can work with Nicole Thomte by Phone, Video, Live Chat, or Messaging.

How much does therapy with Nicole Thomte cost?

Fees can vary based on location and Nicole Thomte’s availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that may be canceled at any time for any reason. For current pricing and details, click the ‘Start Therapy’ button on this page.

How can I get started with therapy?

To get started, click the ‘Start Therapy’ button and complete a short questionnaire used to match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule a first session by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.

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