Nicole Thomte

Nicole Thomte (she/her or they/them) is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Minnesota, with thirteen years of clinical experience. Nicole centers a practice that intentionally serves people, couples, and families who live outside dominant societal expectations and who are often underserved by mainstream mental health care.

Nicole offers affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+ people as well as those involved in kink, consensual nonmonogamy, polyamory, and related relationship structures, using a largely solution-focused approach informed by an intersectional feminist perspective. She is also interested in sex-positive work and sex therapy while affirming the legitimacy of asexuality within its own spectrum.

Her therapeutic manner is exploratory and accepting rather than prescriptive, with attention to humor as a way to ease the strain of difficult situations. Nicole approaches clients as the experts in their own lives, providing supportive reflection and an outside viewpoint to help illuminate patterns and connections that might be hard to see amid current struggles. She prefers to prioritize what each person brings to sessions over reliance on diagnostic labels.

Choosing to work in therapy was Nicole’s third career path, a decision she describes as complex, lengthy, and profoundly rewarding. After receiving approval for a state intern license in 2013, she worked at a behavioral health agency serving people with significant challenges, including many navigating disability, multiple health concerns, and limited access to resources.

Beginning in November 2012, Nicole participated in supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups with Gender Justice Nevada, a commitment that continued until a hiatus in July 2018. Over those nearly six years she learned from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence and discrimination, sex- and gender-diverse young people, families and loved ones of gender-diverse people, and sex workers, providing group facilitation as well as individual, couple, and family therapy.

Nicole describes herself as a compassionate, driven advocate for those pushed to the margins, and she welcomes the opportunity to hear what clients bring to the therapeutic relationship.