Thomas Wilder

Thomas Wilder approaches recovery as a deliberate, soulful process and aims to partner with people as they work toward greater independence and wholeness. He likens the therapeutic relationship to a faithful sidekick supporting the person who is the hero of their own story - offering encouragement, honest feedback, gentle confrontation when needed, and practical counsel while remaining a steady part of the client’s supportive circle. Over time clients are expected to face their fears without him, but with changed perspectives, increased strength, and a rewritten narrative that replaces doubt and stagnation with growth and self-compassion.

Based in the mountains of North Carolina, Thomas graduated from Montreat College and went on to earn full licensure as a clinical mental health counselor in North Carolina. He is also nearing completion of a credential for substance abuse counseling. Over the past several years he has worked in a recovery-focused, person-centered therapeutic community supporting people with major mental health challenges and, in some cases, addictions.

His therapeutic style blends empathy, warmth, humor, and directness. He specializes in conditions rooted in excessive self-control - situations where too much control blocks authentic expression or interferes with living a meaningful life. Maladaptive perfectionism, all-or-nothing thinking, resistance to feedback, loneliness, anxiety, treatment-resistant depression, and OCD are among the concerns he commonly treats.

Thomas’s preferred approaches include Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Ecotherapy, and Existential Therapy, alongside somatic and experiential tools such as Brainspotting, Natural Flow EMDR, and mindfulness practices. He would be honored to get to know you and walk alongside you as you work toward lasting recovery and wholeness.